Working From Home With Multiple Children: How I Survive! 

Endless spills, constant screams/whining, bathroom accidents, and countless ungrateful attitudes are what a stay at home mom deals with on a daily basis, all day long. Literally 24/7! You probably thought that I was only referring to the behavior my children but these behaviors are definitely experienced with grown folks, well…myself! Yes, I’m guilty of spilling things, screaming and being ungrateful when I get frazzled or frustrated. That all comes with the three jobs I have. My primary job is to homeschool and care for my four little blessings; 5 year old boy/girl twins, 4 year old son, and 2 year baby girl. The other jobs are working at home as a contract administrator for a Fortune 500 pharmaceutical company and managing our finances in which I also consider part-time. 

I have recently calculated an estimated gross salary for my current triune role as a WAHM (work at home mom), a position I’ve obtained for over 2 years now. It was an astounding amount of $180,000 a year! That includes a salary from daycare (for all four children), part time work from home, and part time CFO (Chief Financial Officer). When you combine all of these daily positions in addition too your normal at home spousal duties i.e. cleaning, cooking, and yard work, you are no doubt over worked and essentially underpaid. All of my work seems to be pro bono and at times I feel like an under-appreciated servant who’s always stressed out, physically, mentally and spiritually drained.

Well I’m here to tell you what makes my life easier. When I say ‘easier’ I’m definitely using that term lightly. Please understand that staying at home with children is a calling. It will never be easy and everyone might not be able to do it, however, you can survive it! Here are eight practical ways to help you in your work at home with kids journey.

1. Plan Your Day Ahead of Time

I plan the meals and snacks for the day on the night before. I also get their outfits out (if we decide to change our clothes that day). The activities, lesson plans, outings and naps (If I get lucky!) are incorporated in the daily schedule. Without a consistent schedule you will without a doubt lose your wits!!! Plan, plan and plan!

2. Manage Your Time Wisely

If you have to break it down by the hour to make sure you are managing your time effectively then do it. For example, I try not to spend more than 1 hour at a time in front of my computer, watching TV, or doing a chore. I try to prioritize what task needs my attention the most. For example washing a sink full of dishes or load of laundry does not take priority over a job project or teaching my children. Designate time for every task you have but also find time to play with your kids. 

3. Confine Your Kids to a Designated Area

We generally hang out in our living room or family room. That way, at the end of the day I only have a few rooms to clean including the kitchen. Those rooms are also the largest rooms in the house that enables the kids to play, learn, and watch TV. Whatever you do, do not let the roam them house unsupervised. You’ll end up with a very eventful day to say the least.

4. Child Proof Every Room

If you have something that can harm your kids, lock it up. If they shouldn’t go into a particular room, lock it up! Put the good sweet snacks on an elevated shelf in the pantry so that you have time to catch your little kids if they attempt to help themselves! Use your high chairs, bouncers, and pack n plays to temporarily restrain your little one before you get on a call or take a potty break. Also sit in an area of the house that provides the perfect view of your child’s possible way of escape. For example, if you are in the living room sit at an angle that allows you to see each exit into another room. Completely unsupervised children will cause major problems and it could be dangerous. No matter what age group your child falls in, keep a watchful eye at all times. 

5. Discipline Your Child/Children Consistently 

Spare the rod, spoil the child is what the Bible says. I honestly think that it’s not only referring to physical chastising but establishing rules and enforcing them. I’ve learned to talk to my children about what their actions and why they were wrong, give a swat on the rear-end if they have broken a rule (time out or taking away something they like for a period of time are alternatives), then say a short prayer with them. When you take the time to do this you not only make your work day run smoothly, you also impart into your child core principles of life. If they don’t learn to respect and listen to you then they won’t do it to others. You might not see the benefits of this type of discipline right now but I truly believe it will pay off in the long run. 

6. Stay Loaded with Snacks 

Anyone who knows me, knows the fact that I stay equipped with snacks in the home and especially outside the home. Snacks are great to use when for a reward system, distraction and redirecting. If I know I have to get on a business call, focus on a project, or tend to another responsibility, I make sure I have a quiet activity along with a snack planned for my little ones. If we’re outside of the house I tell my children if they follow the rules then they get a sweet snack (usually fruit snacks or fruit roll ups). This encourages them to learn self control. It also lets them know that good behavior is appreciated and therefore rewarded. 

7. PRAY Without Ceasing

The Bible tells us to pray without ceasing! Every morning before I get up, during the day, and before I go to bed I pray. I ask God to give me supernatural strength to be effective and efficient in all of my positions. This is a job that requires you to have the help of the Holy Spirit especially if you don’t have help from a nanny or family member. Along with prayer, also anoint your home with holy oil to set the atmosphere of love, peace, unity, and contentment. 

8. Keep a Grateful Heart

When things are continuously not going as well as I expected , I always remind myself that things could be worst. There are days when I feel like I want to give up and that I have failed as a wife, mother, friend and employee but life goes on. I learn from my mistakes and keep it moving. I’m grateful that I’m alive, healthy, and blessed with family and provision. I look at my jovial and beautiful children, listen to their cute little giggles and watch cognitive developmental milestones all day long.  I’m grateful that I was blessed with the opportunity to stay home with them and still have an additional source of income. When I struggle, I find joy knowing that my kids are happy, loved, educated, minstered to, taken care of by me and that my dear husbands trusts me with this great responsibility. Joyce Meyer once said, “Enjoy where you are on the way to where you’re going”. Those are words that I strive to live by. 

I believe this post pretty much answers the frequently asked question, “How do you do it???”. The topic was recently requested by my brother in law who occasionally works from home with my sweet nephews and niece. This one’s for you Uncle B! 

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Author: nwicks123

A woman after God's own ❤️...

4 thoughts on “Working From Home With Multiple Children: How I Survive! ”

  1. I love your blog! I can definitely relate to your posts. I am a stay at home mom during the day and I work nights. It is challenging and also rewarding. Thanks for the tips and encouragement! 😊

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  2. Hey sis! Thanks so much for the post. Im not sure how you, daycare providers, and other SAHMs do it EVERYDAY, it is beyond me. As you know, I can typically hold my own when staying at home with my children (you will understand my lack of assertiveness after reading my comments). I love to spend time with them and sometimes find my self being the biggest kid of my eight, four, and two year old. We love your posts and when I requested this topic last week it was in anticipation of my baby duties due to our daycare provider taking time off. I survived working from home on Friday…I was productive while keeping my 2 little ones engaged in various activities. Let’s just say after starting the day bright and early, they were burned out by midday. Oh yeah…I felt a sense of accomplishment. I got this!!! Well now it’s Monday, I’m on duty again, and its just before midday. This time I’ve had conference calls nonstop since 6am and I think I’m the one who is burned out now (the word think is me being prideful lol). My kids have crashed every meeting. They were so involved I had to assign them action items: 1) Dont talk to daddy while he’s on the phone 2) Try not to yell, cry, or stomp in the same room while daddy is in a meeting. There’s 2 other conference rooms available for you: both of your rooms!!! Childish, right? 3) Here’s some candy at 830am, take it, its yours, just be quiet please. Obviously its been hard to provide my undivided attention but I tried asking my backup morning nannys (Peppa Pig and Apple Jacks) to split shifts for me but they haven’t done a great job. Peppa Pig is watching itself and the Apple Jacks are all over the table and the floor (smh…it happened so quickly lol). I tried working the angle to make sure I can monitor while on a call but I promise you that my children are quicker than Flash. As I stand here looking at the Apple Jacks, this blog comes to mind. I think, I haven’t read my sisters blog yet. Might as well do it now, it can’t get any worse. Then, I realized I probably should have read this last night. Please give me grace, I was at your house most of the weekend. These 8 tips are definitely on the spot. Thanks for taking the time to write this. Because of you, hopefully the second half of the day will be more successful than the first. I gotta go, my babies need me now. Time for hugs, kisses, and quality time. BTW…They’ve been right here with me while I lean against the fridge and type these comments…much quieter than when I was on the conference calls…eating all of the spilled Apple Jacks lol. Not my idea, but it works for me. All part of working from home with multiple children. Keep the posts coming!

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